Babies love sticky mothers should do this
Parents who are new parents are often very worried. At some stage, the child will be particularly sticky. Even the mother must follow the toilet. What is going on?
How to solve it?
Now, Zhu Dongsheng, chief physician of the Department of Child Health, Guangdong Provincial Maternal and Child Health Hospital, will help everyone. What should I do if my child always loves “sticking people”?
Children love “sticky” mothers have to “sneak” at work. Miss Li found that daughter Linlin, who is more than 1 year old, loved sticky people during this time. Apart from sleeping, she couldn’t live without her for a moment, like a “small tail”You can’t shake it.
Sometimes I played well, turned around and suddenly found that my mother was gone. I immediately dropped the toy in my hand and looked for my mother. Once I found someone, I started crying and shouting, “I want my mother.”You have to sneak away at work or you can’t get rid of it.
Babies love stickiness because of a lack of security. During parenting, some mothers (or caregivers who are in close contact with the child) will find that the child will hold a special love bond at one stage. Wherever he goes, the child is like a little tail.It seems that you can’t do without it for a moment, and sometimes it makes parents feel particularly troubled.
In fact, the baby loves to stick to people is mainly due to the baby’s feeling of “insecurity”, and this is mostly related to the usual family care style.
Some families have been taken care of by a mother, grandma, or grandmother since the birth of the child. Generally speaking, the child has a long time with them, and they will form an attachment relationship with this close contact caregiver. These attachmentsThe person can give them a feeling of “safety” in their hearts. Once separated, it is like losing their emotional support, causing them to have some worried emotions, especially children with rich inner emotions, which will be more intense.
The mother who loves babies should do so. Generally speaking, as the child grows older, this phenomenon of “sticking people” will gradually disappear, but the parents’ excessive tension or letting them develop may also affect the children.In the future, how can you help your baby make a smooth transition from the “small tail” who loves “sticky people”?
Create opportunities for children to get in touch with other people besides the caregiver. In addition to the caregiver, other members of the family should also be more in touch with the child, such as playing games with the child, establishing a harmonious parent-child relationship, letting him knowIn addition to mothers, this sense of security can also be established in other family members.
When the child grows up a bit, you can take him out and move around, and contact more people outside of the family, especially children of the same age, so that the child learns to interact with people in an unfamiliar environment, improving their adaptability and social skills.
Creating a relatively safe and stable growth environment Some children become sensitive because they have been scared or have experienced a high degree of change in their living environment. They love to stick to others. Therefore, parents should create a relatively safe and stable growth environment for their children.Leave the child alone in a dark or intensely conflicting environment, and don’t always say something like “Mom doesn’t want you”, “Don’t go there, you will be taken away by bad people” and other words that threaten the child.
Establish a trusting relationship with their children. Some parents treat children who are sticky, or behave difficult to give up, take three steps back when they leave, or take the trick of cheating their children and sneaking away. These are actually not suitable.of.
This will make the child think that the mother is going to disappear forever, and the mother doesn’t like him anymore, don’t want him anymore. This feeling of separation will make them feel insecure and worry.
If the mother wants to leave temporarily, it is better to tell the child in advance, let the child know, and tell him what the mother is busy with, when the mother will come back to play with the baby again, and make a series of promises.Say hello, tell him that you are back, and after coming down a few times, he will feel that you are trustworthy, and not leave him because you don’t love him.
By distracting attention to reduce the “viscosity” baby is easily attracted by new things. Occasionally, he can cultivate more hobbies to divert their excessive attention to attachments: such as playing games, drawing pictures, reading picture books.Wait.
Properly cultivate the “independence” of children. Some children are too dependent on their parents and like to stick to their parents. They hope that parents can help him to accomplish anything. For such children who are not independent and like to be sticky, they are often encouraged to do more.Some things that can be done to change the baby’s progress and give timely praise and encouragement.
Through the above sharing, we learned that children are afraid of strangers and sticky people. In fact, it will be much better at the age of two and a half.See if you need to use parent-child games and other treatments to improve their corresponding social functions.